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Slade Trillgon
Siorai Iontach
Brotherhood of the Spider
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Posted - 2008.05.20 18:16:00 -
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Didn't read all the post and I will speak from personal and similar experiance.
I had a similar issue with a high school crush. I would stick with the being friends or just cut it off completely. The best thing to do, IMMHO, is to let it go completely. If she is not showing interest at this point your best bet is to cut it off and see if that has any effect, otherwise you are setting yourself up for a world o hurt brother.
The girl I am talking about only wants me for physicalities when she comes into town now adays so I humor her, but I do not let my heart get into it. I am good at rationalizing. If you are not then I would seriuosly cut it off and find a new lady friend.
LMAO!!! Then again I could be totally wrong. We, as men, will never figure out women. For all we know she could be shy herself, playing hard to get, sees you as a good friend and does not want to ruin that, and/otr a whole slew of other things.
A few questions from me to clear things up...
1) How old are the 2 of you?
2) Does this girl have a history of primarily haveing male friends?
3) Does she tend to be quite open with her sexuality?
4) Have you ever had any physical relations with her?
5) Have you ever told her your real feelings?
End Note: If you can not help yourself then this is what I suggest to say...
"You know :insert name here: back in high shool I always thought we would have had a great time if we had dated. I was wondering if you ever had similar feelings?
If she answers yes then you can say something like well then why don't we hang out and have some fun. If she says no then you put things more in a past perspective with the thoughts of current day exploration without really exposing yourself as a potential love sick puppy.
Slade
P.S.
Disclaimer: I am no cassanova. LOL
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Slade Trillgon
Siorai Iontach
Brotherhood of the Spider
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Posted - 2008.05.20 20:30:00 -
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Edited by: Slade Trillgon on 20/05/2008 20:33:19
 Originally by: DGTLC
I know I should probably just get over her but it's a huge amount harder to do then it is to say. She was the girl of my dreams and I don't think I have enough willpower to force myself to let her go.
When I was 18 I told a ex of mine how I felt, it did not change the way things were and I was not happy for awhile. I went to college where I easily forgot about her.
She then came back into my life after 5 years in college. Things were awkward and I had mixed feelings but I then moved 900 miles (@ 1500 KM) away for grad school and she left my mind again.
She came back into my life 4 years after I finished grad school, this past October, and now we are friends that have sex when she is in town from Denver.
That is my "similar" experiance fast forwarded for you.
Slade
EDIT: So I would say forget her for know you will be better off and stronger for that action. I would say it is much better to be stong and deny yourself something then to break down to something and loose it. Well at least in this case.
The old addage also fits here, If it was ment to be it will work out in the end.
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Slade Trillgon
Siorai Iontach
Brotherhood of the Spider
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Posted - 2008.05.20 20:51:00 -
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Slade Trillgon
Siorai Iontach
Brotherhood of the Spider
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Posted - 2008.05.20 22:23:00 -
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Originally by: DGTLC
I probably should have mentioned earlier that I'm probably joining the same class as her next year which could make forgetting about her quite a bit harder.
I think I'll go for the tell her how I feel and risk it solution. At least it will give me conformation either way.
That got me laughing in a "I feel sorry for you kinda way". But yes I think you have realized, for your sanity, that you probably have to man up.
Even if she blows you off rub it off and get some practice in for next year. Get buddy buddy with one or more of the the new girls in your class, if you are still thinking about her use the new girls as bait 
Man I need to stop.
Good Luck!!!
Slade
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Slade Trillgon
Siorai Iontach
Brotherhood of the Spider
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Posted - 2008.05.21 14:38:00 -
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Once you tell her you will feel better, even if she does not reciprocate the feelings.
Just know, that after a few years she may just come crawling back with the knowledge that you were the best thing that could have happened to her.
And then budy o boy the the cards are in your favor
Slade
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Slade Trillgon
Siorai Iontach
Brotherhood of the Spider
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Posted - 2008.05.22 19:03:00 -
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Originally by: toasteroven501
Well since i don't think anyone has said it yet, there's one other option which, although a nasty tactic, usually does works out pretty well.
The jealousy bit. Hang out with her alot, but just as friends, and hit on every other hot girl around. Even ask her for advice. Just play it cool and see how she reacts. Girls get jealous too. And it's very obvious when they do.
This may not be the right thing for you to do, but it's definately an option.
You know this is really a very good option, because within this choice many other options are guaranteed to open up. This one could be trouble if you mind head games.
Then again all the above are head games, life is one big head game so go with the flow.
Hope it ends well, or you learn a good lesson from it, or both.
For what lies beyond is one more question waiting to be answered 
Slade
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